Not the “Best Face” Book

Contributing Writer: Eric Miller, Inheritance of Hope Marketing & Communications Director

Maybe you’re not a public person and don’t want to share your story on social media. Totally fine. However, in many ways, social media can decrease the feeling of isolation and provide people with a sense of community in which to communicate and interact.
We encourage our Inheritance of Hope families to find strength in community. Many have done so by forming online social groups.
Not only does it create a community of support, but it also creates a digital legacy of your journey. Whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Caring Bridge, blogging, etc., find the best platform for your communication preferences, and tell your story!

Resist the “best face” book. We’ve all seen people who appear to live a perfect life of fun and happiness. Definitely share your moments of joy on social media, but don’t be afraid to “be real” either. Be candid and authentic about your experiences. Consider tone and always be grateful for the support you receive.

Spread news appropriately. Good reports will, undoubtedly, be easy to share. Bad news may not. In either case, be clear to your supporters. Do you need help with a specific task? Asking for prayers? Need assistance with childcare? Your supporters want to help. Give them guidance on what they can do for you.

As death approaches, how do you want your social media to be handled? Are you asking for privacy? Communicating your wishes will help your closest supporters proceed in the days following.

A note to friends and extended family. In this time where social media has become a part of one’s daily activities, be conscious of the content you post about a loved one, particularly as the “worst news” arrives. Unless given permission, show respect by waiting for immediate family members to post the news on social media. Doing so will minimize distractions for the family.

Other online resources. Like social media, new products continue to flood the online marketplace. Some may hold a long shelf life and others may dissipate as fast as they entered. Sites like remain as effective tools to communicate with supporters. and are practical resources for meal coordination. There are powerful sites like and that allow one to be intentional about legacy.
There are so many more sites with products and ideas to help you communicate with your loved ones. While searching illness prognoses and treatments can be sobering, researching how to make your children feel loved, and remember that your legacy can be a source of comfort.

Action Item: Let a loved one know how you want your social media handled after your death.